Planned Parenthood: Where will this Actually End?

When I learned that the Louisiana state government was cancelling it's contract with Planned Parenthood, I felt a short burst of victory, followed by a much longer musing over the question I still haven't answered: "Where will this actually end?"

Like a stereotypical person in their 20s, I am normally inclined to stay away from politics. Maybe I'm disinterested, maybe I'm cynical, maybe I just don't pay that much in taxes yet, but it normally seems like more effort than it is worth to figure out what I really should think about a topic. But for the last few weeks, I have felt compelled to contribute my tiny internet platform to the social media explosion over the video scandals of certain Planned Parenthood officials.

Somewhere along the way though, I found myself starting to wonder where this was all going. If we actually succeed in defunding Planned Parenthood, what then? Abortion will still be legal. Parents would still choose to end the lives of their unborn children. And, perhaps most significantly, there would still be a majority of American's who think that is the way it should be.

It is my sincerest hope that the videos of doctors casually discussing the dollar value of baby parts has reached hearts and changed minds of those who disregarded the sanctity of the people those parts belonged to. But my Facebook feed tells me that there are many who are unmoved, or possibly even more entrenched against what they see as angry insistence on imposing puritanical virtues on disadvantaged women.

I do not intend to stop insisting on the value of unborn children, but I do want to keep a long view on this battle. The goal is not to change a law, but to save lives. This battle will not end when people are no longer permitted to kill their children, but when they no longer want to or feel the need to.

I think the most likely outcome of all of these videos is that some states, like Louisiana, will defund Planned Parenthood. But that will not be enough. Planned Parenthood does not even provide abortions in Louisiana, and there are plenty of other providers for that, and many women who are in desperate enough situations they feel an abortion is their only choice.

I think it unlikely that Federal Funding for Planned Parenthood will be cut off. President Obama has already said he would veto any bill that did so.  But even if federal funding was cut, it would not be enough. Abortion would still be legal, and there would be many people who genuinely believe that the only way women can achieve equal dignity and value is to have the right to terminate their children.

But legislative action is not the goal, it is a means to an end. The goal is saving lives. So where are we really going with all of this? What is our end game?

As the Planned Parenthood drama continues to swirl, there are a few definite actions that I think we can pursue.

First, we can let our emotion spill over into acts of love and care for the poor and needy in our communities. Fostering and adopting kids can quite literally save the lives of children whose parents might have done something truly desperate without another option. Giving of not just your money, but also your time and energy to care for the poor can help end cycles of neglect and self-destruction that plague not only the poor, but also their children. Providing such care is costly, but abortion did not start with Roe v. Wade, and if we truly want to end it, this is where we must go.

Second, we can ensure our speech is aimed to change minds and not merely ease our own consciences. The disagreement on abortion is much deeper even than the issue itself. It is often hard to have a conversation about it because people start so far away they genuinely do not understand what the other is saying. It is not only on trivial things that we are to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger. So before you go re-post that next article, ask yourself who you are trying to convince, and how effective it will be at changing their minds.

Finally, we can keep things in perspective and remember that the only real solution to a disordered society is the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Lives are only really saved when they are reconciled to God. Minds are only really changed when they are renewed by the Holy Spirit. Our most urgent mission is the one we have been on since Jesus told us to go to all nations. The root cause of the worlds disregard for life is because they have rebelled against the source of life, and unless they are reconciled to Him, we cannot expect all evil and death to be undone.

I still do not know where all of this Planned Parenthood drama will end. But I do know how the real battle ends. So today I will press on in faith, confident that God will keep doing what he has always done: saving lives.

On Giving Advice

Seldom give unguarded advice, for advice is a dangerous gift, even from the wise to the wise, and all courses may run ill. - Gildor Inglorion

J.R.R Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

I have given more than my fair share of advice, sometimes far more than anyone really wanted. I have never actually timed it, but I think it's safe to say that I form opinions quicker than the average bear, usually within the first minute of first hearing about a topic. I also rarely see any problem with sharing that opinion just as quickly as my brain puts two thoughts together. Unfortunately, I have found that advice based on a one minute old opinion is not particularly accurate nor helpful.

On the whole, I do not consider possessing the dual threat of an opinionated nature and a quick tongue to be a particularly good thing. But one good thing that has come from it is that I have learned a thing or two about what makes advice actually helpful, partially by giving a good deal of not so helpful advice. So, in the hopes that you can give less bad advice than I have, here are a few things I would recommend you do the next time someone starts a conversation with "What do you think I should do about..."

Seek the Whole Story

Before you give advice on any topic, you should always consider that you do not know the whole story. As I have said, I am often quick to give a "gut response", sometimes before the person has even finished explaining. The obvious problem with this is I almost certainly do not yet have enough information to give good advice. I might do well enough at recommending a restaurant to try on a trip to New Orleans, but if I am advising someone on how to mend a broken relationship, or telling a college freshmen which major they should consider and why, it is the height of arrogance to think myself so full of wisdom I can just rattle off a quick answer that will lead them down the path of wisdom. One short explanation, plus my personal experience and a blog I just read on a related topic do not combine to make good advice.

On the occasions when I did spend time trying to understand what lies beneath, and behind, and in front of the question I am being asked, I have often found that the person asking did not even know the whole story. "The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out" (Proverbs 20:5). People are not simple, and our motivations are not always easy to discern. Even my own heart can be a mystery to me, but I always appreciate those people who are understanding and patient enough to help me draw out what is really motivating me.

One of the most helpful things I have learned to do when asked for advice is to turn the question around and ask why they want to do one thing or another. Many times I find that it takes a minute, or even a couple of days, for that person to figure out their answer. They might be afraid of a potential outcome, or be trying to please someone without realizing it, or acting on an emotion they have not slowed down enough to identify. Sometimes simply asking the right question makes the answer obvious to the other person, and they find they know what they should do having seen it from another angle. Even if that's not the case, the more you understand about the situation, the better advice you will be able to give. So whenever possible be quick to ask questions and slow to give advice.

Know Your Bible

The more I recognize the seriousness and difficulty of giving good advice, the more I am gratefully that God has given us a light for our stumbling feet. The founder of all wisdom has given us a textbook on wisdom in his revealed Word. However, the Bible does not contain a proverb for every problem, nor did Jesus give specific instruction on every topic. Biblical advice then must consist of much more than finding 3 or 4 verses that seem to best fit the topic at hand. Rather, the wise counselor knows how to fit life's questions into the grand story that God has told throughout his interaction with humanity to better understand both the question itself, and how it should be answered. 

The Bible does not have a specific answer to most of the questions that people ask: Should I take this job? Should I date this person? Should I buy this thing? Unless you are considering a career as a thief or a date with an adulteress, there are no proverbs for these questions. Instead of scouring the Bible for a direct answer to their question, I find it much more helpful to flip it around and see whether the question fits into the Bible's story line. Will this job help me to care for my family and advance the kingdom? Will that relationship reflect the image of Christ and the Church? Will that thing help me to delight in the Lord?

Biblical advice is not about fitting the Bible into our answers, it is about fitting the question into the Bible. You will still have to do some work to determine which is the right answer in a particular circumstance, but once you see where the question fits into the story of God rescuing and redeeming his people out of their self-made prison of sin, I expect it will be very clear that the Bible does have the answer to your question. To do this well we must know not only the general theme of the Biblical story, but its height and depths, its logic and its emotion, its joys and it sorrows. Giving good advice begins today, as you read and study your Bible to learn how it speaks to your life, and the lives of those you want to influence and serve.

Keep it Simple

Proverbs is full of timeless advice from the man God said was the wisest to ever live. But if you read it, you will notice that a lot of what it says seem fairly obvious. For example, Proverbs 10:3 "A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich." Did I really need the wisest man who ever lived to tell me that lazy people don't make much money? However, just because it is obvious, does not make this advice less helpful. I have found this is often the case when giving advice. More often than not, people don't need to be told something new, or given a sophisticated answer to their complex problem, There is a time and place for that, but what most people need when they ask for advice is to be reminded of what they already know is true.

In my experience, when people ask for advice it is not usually about something very unique or intellectually complex. Their question may be about a situation that they do not like, or one which requires a lot from them. "My wife makes no sense to me. Am I really supposed to put up with all of her emotional baggage?" Or the consequences of their decision may seem very large. "Money is really tight right now. Do you think I need to keep giving to the church?" These situations are certainly difficult, but I don't need a PhD to understand what is going on. Likewise, the best advice on questions like these does not need to be particularly complex, comprehensive, or nuanced. Instead, what these questions need is a clear, simple, Biblical answer.

Many times I have been surprised at how much it helped someone for me to say what I thought would be completely obvious. Looking back, I think those people already knew what the right answer was, but because it was going to be hard to actually do they needed the encouragement of hearing someone else say it out loud. Do not think that because your answer is simple or seemingly obvious that it will not be helpful. Start with what is clear, and you may find that clarity was all that they really needed. 

Be Humble

If you have never been struck by the weight of giving advice, then I dare say you should never give any.  No matter how much experience you have, no-one can see the end of every road except the Lord himself. If you tell someone  you think they should chose a certain path, you can never be certain you are not sending them down the wrong road. You may have failed to fully understand the question, or there could be hidden dangers along the path you could not see. Either way, your advice would be wrong. People asking for advice are usually dealing with something more significant than picking out curtains, and the consequences of a bad choice will be equally significant. When you give advice on real life issues, your mistakes may cause someone else untold sorrow and suffering. If that does not give you pause, then you do not really care about the person you are advising. 

Add to that the fact that I cannot even be certain my own convictions, which guide any advice I may give, are wise and well founded. The reality is that my views are often changing on a range of things, from what books are worth reading, to theological positions, to perspectives on parenting and lifestyle, even in just the last few years. The advice I would give on many topics is also different than advice I have actually given just few years ago. I cannot know (but have certainly wondered) what effect that advice had, and whether it may have led people in a direction I would wish they had never gone. 

My stance on important topics is not arbitrary, and I hope any advice I give is based primarily on the Bible. But I am certainly not going to claim that I have everything figured out, or that I will still hold all of the same convictions 10 years from now. So how can I be certain that the advice I give now based on those convictions will lead people towards wisdom and joy? In many ways I cannot. That is not to say the possibility of my being wrong should prevent me from giving advice. Refusing to give advice can harm my brother just as much as giving bad advice. But the reality that my advice may very well be wrong should humble me and cause my tongue to be cautious, and slow to speak.

Be Optimistic

So long as we remain in this broken world the challenges we face will not have a perfect answer, especially when we are dealing with people. A biblical understanding of a fallen world reveals that even the best laid plans may end in unforeseen sorrow and loss. But the Bible does not direct us to hopelessness, far from it. Those of us who live by the Gospel know that no sorrow is great enough to overcome the hope we have in the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Our God delights to redeem the worst circumstances for his purposes. 

Functionally, this means that as we make decisions and give advice to others we should realize that the best solutions will not always avoid risk, or prevent sacrifice and suffering. At the same time, we can joyfully make decisions that we expect to cost us much, or that incur a lot of personal risk, because we know that our hope is not in this world, and that even our death would result in our gain. The advice of a Christian, who has taken up their cross to follow Christ, should sound markedly different than the advice of anyone else.

Our advice should always be given with an undertone of optimism. We can hope where all hope seems lost, continue on when we face more than we can bear, and attempt much when we know we are weak. We can do all this because our confidence is not in ourselves, and while we know that this world will bring us more tears than we know, one day those tears will seem as nothing compared to our endless joy in the one who has already overcome the world.

Eyes Wide Shut - Movies as Mere Entertainment

Thesis: Movies are never just entertaining. You never have, and never will go to a movie and be ‘simply entertained’, and to believe you can is unwise and dangerous.

Let me be clear, while I would love more people to become amatuer film critics and spend hours debating whether ‘Fight Club’ or ‘Life is Beautiful’ best depicts masculinity, I am not calling for that here. Neither would I have people stay home and turn off the television to hide from the evils of Hollywood. We are not called to avoid the world or cut ourselves off from culture, but we are called to be be wise and recognize there is a spiritual war zone all around us.

What I am objecting to is the overly casual attitude that some believers have when it comes to the films they choose to enjoy. If we start talking about the merits of a particular movie, and you tell me that you just watch movies for entertainment and don’t really like to think about them too much, then I say that is a cause for concern. If you are really just tired of listening to my opinions and want me to stop talking, well that is probably fair. But the idea that something designed to keep millions of people seated and staring for 90+ minutes might be nothing more than “entertaining” seems naive at best, and I am arguing is actually dangerous.

I could go on about this all day, but in the interest of discipline I will appeal to the “Rule of 3”. To the casual movie-goer, here are three reasons why you should think about the movies you enjoy.

Argument #1: It is Unbiblical to define a movie as ‘mere entertainment’.

Most people who give me a line about ‘just wanting to be entertained by movies’ are basically saying they think most films are morally neutral. But what we choose to do for fun is not somehow beneath the Lord’s notice. We are owned, body, heart, mind and eyes, by the God who notices when a single sparrow falls to the ground. So when Paul Commends us in Colossians 3:17, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him,” he has in mind not only your choice of a spouse and career, but also what time you get up in the morning and what you choose to do for fun.

When you watch a film, you have made a decision. That decision either honors our Lord or it does not. It would be another discussion entirely to think through how we can or cannot honor the Lord by watching different types of movies, and I do not intend to get into that here. But if you have never considered whether or not your choice of movie honors the Lord, it is worth at least the 20 minutes you would spend flipping through options on Netflix to do so.

For your considerations: Eph 6:12,  Phil 4:8,  Rom 12:2,  Prov 4:23-27,  Jer 17:6,  Rom 14:22-23,  1 Cor 6:12,  Mat 5:28

Argument #2: Your Heart is Complicated.

You watch movies that you enjoy. Something in the the storyline, the characters, the visuals, or the jokes resonate with something inside of you. Even if it is as simple as the beauty of ‘boy-meet-girl’ or ‘hero saves the day’. Something in you is saying “yes,” “good,” “beautiful,” or “I want that.”

In a perfect world all delight would be pure and it would be appropriate to simply evaluate movies by how much we enjoy them. But, as it is, we must guard our hearts and examine the things in which we delight. My own heart often deceives me, and I find that my delight is often a mixed bag. Much of what I desire is good, but much of it is also twisted by pride, confusion, or just plain selfishness. If I simply watch movies that I enjoy without examining my heart, I am feeding desires without discerning whether or not they are good. Why do I enjoy Gladiator anyway?

Argument #3: You are being lied to.

Whether or not the creators of a film had a specific message in mind when they wrote the script, every movie worth watching is going to put forth several significant value statements along the way. They have to if the audience is not going to be bored to tears! Can you imaging a movie that did not define anything as good or bad? Nearly every film is moving towards something, and that something is implicitly defined as either good or bad. It may be solving a mystery, getting the girl, finding ‘yourself’, killing Nazi’s, or pulling off an elaborate heist to steal millions of dollars from some really unpleasant guy, but every film presents something as good, valuable, and worth pursuing.

Then, beneath the most obvious level of the main storyline there are a myriad of other values pictured along the way. Ideas of what is normal, exciting, desirable, tragic, awkward, and comical are crafted and presented to as assumptions. Do we recognize how these values are affecting us? How much of my expectations of what friendship looks like, what it means to be a man, what a wedding night would be like, what will make me happy, were shaped by the images formed out of the worldview of writers, directors, producers, and actors whom I have never met? How many lies have I been sold in the form of a movie ticket? How much discontent and disappointment have I experienced by comparing my life to a 2-dimensional illusion created specifically to

‘entertain’ me? The movies are a multi-billion dollar industry built entirely upon affecting the people’s hearts and minds. To think that the images they create to attract you are not affecting you in some way is plain and simple foolishness.

As I said before, I love movies. I am in no ways trying to demonize the film industry, nor would I have people try and block out the evil’s of hollywood. I have seen many, many movies that spoke truth and increased my appreciation for the good things the Lord has made. But living in a fallen world means we must be discerning of the battle going on all around us. Each day there is a battle for the hearts and minds of every person. Will they turn to the Lord and rejoice in His promises or will they turn to the world and it’s vain hopes? In this world nothing is neutral, and what is entertaining is as complicated as your own heart. Until our hearts are fully conformed into the image of our Lord, we must be careful to discern the difference between things we “simply enjoy” and what is actually good.

So when you walk into a theater or gather around the TV do not close your eyes. Rather ask the Lord to increase your discernment so that you both perceive what is a lie and more clearly rejoice in what is true, beautiful, and good.

Average Creation: A Poem by Franki

So, while I was writing my blog post "Average Creativity", Franki decided to take make a new attempt at poetry. I think the result is pretty good, though I may be biased both by my relationship to her and my experience of the subject matter (spoiler, it's about doing our dishes). I'll leave it at that though and let you judge for yourself.

Just one more thing, if you were inspired to create something after reading my post I'd love to hear about it. Okay done, now read the poem.
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The Basin of Despair (also, the Sonnet of the Sink).
by: Franki Batten

The porcelain stage where my drama set
Is ordained with precious and paltry stone.
In the apron I soak in the near debt
Due to me as I sweat upon my throne.

The curtain is drawn as I don my crown

And the floodlights wash the foul aftermath
Of a stomach feasting on greed. I drown
In self pity accompanied by wrath.

Yet there is a scene, though hidden by blacks,
That tells of a king and his daughter dear.

His sweat paid her debt in his crowning act.

Now she is learning her character here.

I am being washed as the water flows

from springs on dry land that rise ever slow.